The problem with hanging out with feminists all the time, is that you become comfortable with them constantly evaluating and re-evaluating their thoughts. There are qualifiers thrown into their statements, and attempts to use language that is both accurate and inoffensive. You think more carefully about what you are saying, and constantly see the world through a different lens- one that simultaneously makes you feel better about your thoughts, and angry about other’s ignorance.
And then you speak to someone who is not a feminist, and you feel physically pained when they spew ableist or misogynistic language without thinking, or say offensive things casually and expect you to laugh.
No, you are not funny, and yes, I will call you out on it.
I am not the “buzzkill”, you are.
And no, I will not be apologetic, or restrain myself from saying whats on my mind, because people staying silent, is how things don’t change.